https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v45/n23/jacqueline-rose/you-made-me-do-it Created Fri, 17/11/2023 - 00:00 Updated Fri, 17/11/2023 - 00:00 If we loosen our grip on suffering, discard any claim to own it, then perhaps we can ask a different question: how much pain can anyone hold in their mind at once? Must my pain always be greater than yours for it to count?