https://www.lrb.co.uk/the-paper/v45/n23/patricia-lockwood/diary Created Fri, 17/11/2023 - 00:00 Updated Fri, 17/11/2023 - 00:00 The invitation said ‘black dress for Ladies’. ‘You’re not allowed to be whiter than him,’ my husband, Jason, instructs. ‘He has to be the whitest. And you cannot wear a hat because that is his thing.’