A QUARTERLY column from Carrie Brownstein, who is better at dispensing advice than taking it
Q: I’m an adult. I bathe. And yet people keep giving me soap. My mom slipped a bar into my Easter basket this year. My best friend gifted me a bourbon-scented soap for my birthday. My dad found some artisanal soap at a Ren Faire, and my sister gave me some made by monks in Italy. These are all thoughtful gifts. But I’m starting to wonder if they’re also… pointed.
What began as a quirky gifting trend is beginning to smell like an intervention. I want to ask if there’s some unspoken insinuation—but if the answer isn’t a hard no, isn’t it basically a yes?
So tell me: When does a friendly gesture become a red flag?
Fraser Grant
Columbus, OH


